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"Mommy I want a new planet.."

My five-year-old recently told me, "Mom, I just want to live on a new planet."

We were just getting out of the car, into the hot desert 100 degree sun. She really hates 100-degree weather. In some ways, it is truly unbearable: desert life.

And truth be told, other than playing 'Super Mario Galaxy' Wii with her dad on occasion...I don't really know where she got this idea. We haven't talked about other planets, yet...

So I was kind of in awe. How can a little kid think of such funny ideas on their own..? I just love it. I love the innocence of little children.

The other day, I was telling God I felt kind of sad that I would be going back to work soon, and, leaving my little life here. Five years of stay-at-hom mommy-hood has now come to an end, as my little one will start Kinder this month, and for our family's sake I need to go back to work.

Prior to my life as a stay-at-home mom, I worked as a licensed insurance associate, also as a government licensed area director overseeing au pairs, and for 7 years as a marketing assistant for a media group which hosted a local news station and 4 radio stations.

I feel the best years were staying home with my daughter, compared to alllll of my working years.

In the business world, you can seriously be replaced pretty quickly, no matter how many years you put in. If you quit or are let go, there is almost always someone ready to "fill your role" in about 2 weeks time.

As for a mom? That "role" is pretty much irreplaceable.

We as humans have this hungry desire to have parents, have love, and acceptance. We also usually want to 'please our parents.' Sometimes we grow up and realize we can never please them, while some of us have been able to please our parents no matter what. I just really hope... I am pleasing God, and that at the end of this life, he will still be pleased with me and love me..


The Bible and Jesus explaining marriage in the afterlife...

Luke 20:27-40King James Version (KJV)
Then came to him certain of the Sadducees, which deny that there is any resurrection; and they asked him, Saying, Master, Moses wrote unto us, If any man's brother die, having a wife, and he die without children, that his brother should take his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother. There were therefore seven brethren: and the first took a wife, and died without children. And the second took her to wife, and he died childless. And the third took her; and in like manner the seven also: and they left no children, and died.  Last of all the woman died also. Therefore in the resurrection whose wife of them is she? for seven had her to wife. And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection. Now that the dead are raised, even Moses shewed at the bush, when he calleth the Lord the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. For he is not a God of the dead, but of the living: for all live unto him. Then certain of the scribes answering said, Master, thou hast well said. And after that they durst not ask him any question at all.

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(Mark 12:18-27Luke 20:27-40, Matthew 22:23-33) 
23The same day came to him the Sadducees, which say that there is no resurrection, and asked him, 24Saying, Master, Moses said, If a man die, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother. 25Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue, left his wife unto his brother: 26Likewise the second also, and the third, unto the seventh. 27And last of all the woman died also. 28Therefore in the resurrection whose wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her.
29Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God. 30For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. 31But as touching the resurrection of the dead, have ye not read that which was spoken unto you by God, saying, 32I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob? God is not the God of the dead, but of the living. 33And when the multitude heard this, they were astonished at his doctrine.

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The Greatest Commandment
34But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together. 35Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, 36Master, which is the great commandment in the law? 37Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38This is the first and great commandment. 39And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 40On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.


One Day at a Time

Honestly, sometimes I can barely handle the day-to-day stresses of "this life," without feeling like I just might fall apart. Every stressful email, or to-do task, or disgruntled family member, or work problem etc....I just sometimes want to fall into my bed and not get back up.

But of course, that's not really an option. Of course I have to continue on. I see things through Christian eyes now, and I tell you, it's actually a lot harder in some ways to now get through life. Before, when I could dull my spiritual senses to mundane church tasks and once per week visits to "worship God," I just didn't even realize the prison we all live in. Yes, part of me asks God, how can you just leave us here? How can you bear even one child sacrifice, or rape, or murder or torture, How? I am not given the answer just yet, because it probably won't be made clear until this is all over.

But my gosh, to be born in the 1980' the midst of all this psycho illumi-loser world elite running our lives through demonic forces and damm! I just thought we lived in the world, tryin to survive, and that was it!


Yes, this world is a crazy dimensional holographic who-knows-what, and I am still trying to survive, but by the grace of God I am trying. I'm trying to go on and find a strong enough will in myself to never give up. I don't know. I am literally overwhelmed with the truths of our existence. I cling to my Bible, and some may make fun of me, but I don't care because even some in my own family have turned me what do I care if a stranger does as well?

I just want this world to be over already...ready for the 1000 years with Jesus Christ, ready! I pray God would let it end; all of the misery and suffering of children and women in this world. I pray for my soul, for mercy and protection from our enemies...and God has shown me so many things I need to be made aware of as a true follower of Jesus.

Yet despite the hoping for the end, I am dang thankful for the beauty of this life... to just be a part of it... to be able to still make a difference, have a voice, be a human and glorify God... I'm thankful God didn't end my life any sooner... I'm thankful I can turn away the devil and hail Jesus in the name of the Father and the Holy Spirit.... I'm thankful to be given the gift of the Holy Spirit to discern...and I'm thankful God found enough in me to give me mercy that I don't deserve.

As parents, as the "creators" of our kids, we think it's great when they love us in return, when they say nice things to us and show us what must it be like when God created us, and waits for us to glorify Him, talk to Him, be his friend also....and we actually do! I bet He is truly filled with a little bit of happiness from each of us, and I can only humbly ask to be a part of His heavenly body and to be written in the book of life, amen.

I will never entertain the thought of suicide, because, God has strengthened me and humbled me, and has given me a second chance at life, to avoid hell at ALL cost, and to be able to walk with Jesus when he comes to this Earth to save mankind.


In Jesus' name, Amen.


Introverts {&} Extroverts

I wanted to share an extremely enlightening personality distinction from the book, "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. 


"Extraversion and introversion describe how we get our energy, an important dimension of personality development. Spirited kids need energy to manage their strong temperament. It takes a great deal of effort to express intensity as assertiveness rather than aggressiveness."


"Introverts get their energy by being alone or with one or two special people. They prefer to interact with the world on the inside by reflecting on their thoughts and ideas before sharing them with others on the outside. They refresh themselves by spending time alone. If they get it, they'll play well with other kids and be more cooperative. If they don't get (alone time) they'll get surly and nasty."


"Extroverts draw their energy from others. They prefer to engage the world around them outside their bodies by talking with people, sharing ideas and experiences. If they don't have the opportunity to talk, they get crabby and more demanding because they are running out of steam. If they are allowed to recharge by being with other people they are fine."


Yes, as an Introvert, I can validate that the only way for Introverts to "unwind" and gain energy is by having alone time. It doesn't even have to be very long. A half hour to an hour is often plenty. When your Introvert child gets home from school, or your Introvert spouse gets home work, ask them a polite "how was your day?" And don't take it personal if they answer a short "fine" and continue on to their room to read, play a video game, and just unwind for a bit. You want a happy kid? Please give them the space they need.

"Traditionally the term introvert has described someone who is shy and socially unskilled. It's important to remember ...introversion and extraversion do not describe social skills. They explain how we get our energy. Both introverts and extroverts can be very savvy interacting with people. The key is what happens afterward. The introvert will be drained and ready for a nap...whereas the extravert will be wound up and ready for more action."

Introverts are drained as they socialize. Sharing space also takes lots of energy from introverted Spirited children. If an introvert is busy, it's very difficult to be interrupted (even just by stopping to say hello or "good job"). Interruptions rob energy, create a loss of focus and annoyance.

Another point I will make about Introverts is that if/when they are ready to share something, they will. But when pushed to "figure out their feelings" on a time limit, they will most likely either shut down or become grumpy. Don't be surprised if you sit back, give them space, listen and don't judge if they start to open up more.  Introverts have to guard their energy supplies. "If you want your introvert to be socially respectful, teach him to say hello, then allow him to finish his task. By doing so, you respect his energy supply" (Kurcinka, 2004).

I have known extroverts who when not around someone to talk with, share ideas, get feedback and tell their stories to for an extended period of time become quite grumpy. Extroverts need to talk in order to make decisions. "They are energizing themselves by interacting with others. Any activities that will allow your (extrovert) child to interact with others will build her energy supply." They really need to hear how good they are doing, approval, lots of positive feedback to recharge. Extroverts are usually first to volunteer for committee's or group meetings at work and make excellent friends.

Pay attention to your friends, family members and co-workers, and you will be surprised at the distinctions. :)


Kurcinka, M. S. (1998). Raising Your Spirited Child. New York, NY: HarperCollins. 


Mayonnaise Tricks

Mayonnaise Tricks from a great article from:  by Mick Telkamp

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Mayonnaise does not end with lunch. This perfect blend of oil, acid and protein can be used in unexpected ways well beyond tuna salad.  Consider some of these great uses for homemade (or even store-bought) mayo outside the kitchen.
1. Sunburn relief: Cold mayonnaise will soothe a sunburn, provide much-needed moisture and the vinegar even serves as a natural anesthetic.
2. Remove tar: Apply a bit of mayo to road tar, let it rest a few minutes, then wipe it clean.
3. Condition hair: Mayonnaise is a nearly perfect combination of moisturizing oil and nutrient-building egg proteins to help revitalize dry hair. After washing hair, apply a thin treatment of mayonnaise and let rest one hour before rinsing to bring body and shine back to damaged hair.
4. Shine houseplants: An old trick. Rub a little mayo onto plant leaves with a paper towel and wipe clean to add a healthy shine to houseplants.
5. Strengthen fingernails: Immerse fingers in mayonnaise for 5 minutes or so to strengthen nails and restore cuticle health.
6. Kill lice: A thick coating of mayonnaise applied to the hair and left overnight will kill lice without the need for expensive chemical treatments. Nits are not affected, and multiple applications would be necessary to fully eradicate those pesky critters.
7. Lubricate hinges: All out of WD? Smear a little mayo on a door hinge to stop that squeak.
8. Restore wood furniture: Water stains will wipe away with a brief application. If cracks have formed on wood surfaces, fill the cracks with mayonnaise, and leave it for a few days before wiping clean. The combination of oil and protein will cause the wood to swell, closing up those unsightly scratches and gaps.


How to dye your hair at home..

Here is a video for how to dye your hair two different colors at home, for pretty cheap. Under $20. 

Dyes Used (purchased from Target):

1. Revlon Colorsilk Luminista 
2. Garnier Nutrisse 

Video Tutorial


Finding a Talent

To all moms and women out there with a passion for something—my advice is find a way to share it. I believe with the right guidance and care, you could find yourself extra successful. A good friend of mine, Terri, once said, “do what you love, the money will follow.” I do think it could be true for a lot of people. I believe everyone has something to share, or can give some sort of advice that would help others on a topic he/she has a lot of experience in.

I've been trying to convince my mom to start an “at-home” animal care blog. She's always had such a knack for raising and caring for animals. We had a horse, two dogs, a goat, five chickens and at least three geese at all times when I was growing up. It was like, if an animal passed away, we got a new one the following spring from the feed store. My mom loved animals. I can't say I share quite the same passion... I'm always pretty annoyed at the chickens and having to clean up after them and make sure they have water and such, it's not like the funnest time for me personally. But knowing my mom, and her friends, and how they feel about their pets, I just really believe she could have a wonderful blog following and maybe combine her ideas one day and publish her own eBook. 

Another friend of mine composes music in his spare time and created a site that sells mainly ringtones, music downloads and soundtrack music. He has done extremely well, and actually loves his work. I wish my hubby had enough spare time to work on old cars. His dream is a 1981 GNX or a 1969 Dodge Charger. That would be a hobby he would actually feel passionately about and be able to make extra money doing on the side. Maybe when we don't have a spirited toddler who needs constant attention ;)

I have another friend who had a horse growing up, and her parents still have three horses on a few acres. I know my friend would make an amaaaazing horse instructor. I would take my daughter to her to teach her how to ride horses. I would pay for my daughter to have proper riding lessons, and my friend is the most outgoing, funny, vibrant gal who would make a wonderful instructor. 

The problem is, my friends sometimes don't have that extra push that they really need to believe in themselves. Sometimes it's simply a lack of time, or money. But I find in my own life, the only way I feel like I am staying “sane” is by investing time and effort into some sort of project that defines me, makes me feel a connection to helping others, and leaving something for my children to really know me. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others” - Marianne Williamson

Of course there are some costs that go into any hobby to make it really good. If you can somehow find a way, it's worth a try. At the minimum if you can afford a computer, internet and a small amount of time to learn how to blog, you can sell your own work. You can sell a number of creations -- music, thesis, ringtones, novel, photos, weblog articles or movies, on free sites like Google/Blogger, Gumroad or Oronjo. 

I have a few friends who have taken their talents to the next level in creating a small but powerful presence in their communities. One friend is a photographer who has the most beautiful portfolio capturing amazing moments in people's lives and for their families. Another friend of mine started a sewing blog and eventually quit her teaching job of 8 years to open up her own sewing and craft store. She may one day open stores all over America. Why not? Maybe 8 years of her life were wonderful teaching, and now she's moved on to something else, something that makes her heart sing in a different way. 

Whatever your talent, find a way to expound on it. 

My life goal is to travel to Cambodia or Brazil to help young girls who are the victims of rape, abuse and neglect, working with a foundation like WorldVision RedCross or the UNHCR. That's my long-term, visionary goal for myself. I need a plan and a place to start, so I have made connections with people all over the world via social media who share the same concerns, interests. As a family we chose a child through the WorldVision program whom we can 'sponsor' each month and feel assured the money (only $35/mo.) really goes to helping this family in a developing country. One day I hope we can have 5 families. One day I want to join the crusade to help children in developing countries, but it will take some time and planning. 

All it takes is a plan. You may start out on an idea, a project and find it takes you in a totally different direction one day, and that's fine! We Millennials are okay with change—okay with pushing our limits and using technology to our advantage. We don't have to be stuck in some idea that simply doesn't work for us. 

Believe in Yourself

Once you have a plan, the second step is believing in yourself. When you already feel down in the dumps over a failure or a hardship in your life, it can seem like everyone around you is much better off and you begin to hone in on your own shortcomings or hardships. It's hard when we Millennials finally realize how little the world actually cares about us. We think it's going to, or that it should, but the world can be very scary and very damaging, and I really think the only one we can truly depend on is ourselves and our relationship with God. 

There's no need to turn to alcohol, or pop pills, shoot meth, smoke crack.. 

I have seen friends and acquaintances turn to this stuff as a way of dealing with hardships or regrets. 

The key to a happy life is to find meaning in your life. Accept who you are. Accept that you have setbacks and failures—we all do. Maybe some of our parents forgot to mention this, a few times, but most of us really aren't going to be given anything in this life—we simply aren't entitled. 

The problem with drinking or popping pills, heroin, meth, etc. is that it's a temporary fix to a bigger problem—ultimately compounding into even more problems than there were in the beginning. Just watch a season of Intervention on A&E, and you can see the problems, detrimental effect and years stolen that drugs and drinking can cause. 

Maybe there are better remedies at dealing with stress—like music, classes, creating something, herbal tea, yoga, planting a garden, helping a local charity, planning a vacation, praying for strength...things that are a healthy outlet to the stresses in life, without taking us down a dark and addictive road of addiction or recovery. 

“Cause sometimes, you just feel tired. Feel weak. And when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up. But you gotta search within you. You gotta find that inner strength, and just pull that sh#t out of you. And get that motivation to NOT give up and NOT be a quitter. No matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.” -Eminem


{Dear Ambria}, Not All People Are Good People.

"A few years later, it happened again. A childhood camp friend disappeared. I was old enough then to remember rumors of an upsetting story, possibly a familial abduction gone awry, or maybe even the work of a serial killer, but again, there was no forthright discussion in our house or in the community. Instead, there were rumors and a silent acceptance of the girl's disappearance. Questions were not encouraged, answers not given. Perhaps it was a symptom of fear; discussing the unbelievable, the terrifying, might make it happen. But, as parents, we have a responsibility to discuss these difficult topics with our children. All kids need reliable information. Yes, of course, how you talk about tough topics differs with a child's age, but again, all kids need information. That is just common sense."
-Safe Kids, Smart Parents (Bailey, E. and Bailey, R., 2013)

Jaycee Dugarg was held in captivity for 18 years. She was kidnapped at 11 years old and suffered constant abuse. Jaycee was walking to school in South Lake Tahoe, California, when she was kidnapped by the couple Phillip and Nancy Garrido.

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Dear Ambria,

You are two now. 

The more I read about these horrible, sick cases of child abductions and torture of women and children, the more worry I have; more than I can possibly describe to you. I just want you to be safe...and that probably means I am going to have to tell you about things I don't want to in a few years, but I must for your sake.

I keep thinking how lucky I am, to have survived my 30-years as a millennial, in America, without any instance of true abuse, harm, endangerment, imprisonment, rape, assault, crime or otherwise. 

I have to agree with my friends who take active roles in ensuring their daughter's safety and survival with talks about safety, even if they may be somewhat uncomfortable, because it is the best chance of survival without being permanently damaged or scarred by sexual abuse. I would rather it be me, your mom, to warn you rather than some demented pervert or crazy coming along. 

Now, we are not here to judge; that is not our place. But we can certainly be aware, and  honest with our sons and daughters. Times simply aren't like they were 50 years ago, or, maybe they are and we are just more aware...

What I mean is, countless times... countless... I talk to girls my age, 25-35, who have never had a "sex" or "safety" or "what it means to be a woman" talk with their moms or dads in their youth. Not that their moms were bad people or bad mothers, it was seemingly such a taboo topic - sex and the body - that women didn't want to talk about it usually, even to us kids from the 90's. (Especially parents who were very religious, the "not my child" attitude.")

Ambria, I just want you to know that unfortunately, the cycle of abuse and torture continues many times without understanding. We can't possibly understand what really made the wife of that monster in the case of the Jaycee Lee Dugard go along with his perverted sense of demoralizing human torture. We may not understand the inner workings of someone so disgusting and perverse because our decade has not quite gotten to the true inner-workings of such criminals. In the case of Rachel Berry, Gina DeJesus and Michelle Knight, Ariel Castro was sentenced and ended up hanging himself with only a month into serving his time. He kidnapped and tortured THREE young women for a decade and couldn't take 'prison life' for even a month.

One commentator on facebook wrote, "Ariel Castro, coward in life, coward in death."

My point is, trust takes time and effort to build. Maybe that's a wrong way to look at relationships, but the way I see it is -- trust is earned, not given. Unfortunately, like in the case of the Elizabeth Smart abduction, some Crazy given a job at their home ended up kidnapping and torturing her (14 years old) for almost a year before she was found. And another instance when another woman was involved with the kidnapping...  : /

There is a strong sense of wickedness that is sweeping the world through the internet and the increase in human trafficking - the worst crime that can be committed on another human being - no one has such a right! 

Yes, I've been safe so far in my life, but that doesn't mean looking back I can't see situations that could have turned out worse. Like one time, I accepted a ride in the back of a truck with some people I barely knew at a party. That could've turned out worse than me just happening to get home safely and they were decent folks who didn't kidnap and murder me. But what if they had? 

I guess we all will make "dumb" choices in our teens and young adulthood, it seems most everyone I've talked to admits it. But victims, especially children, are so defenseless! Some adult messing up a child's entire life--it's so inhumane, so cruel. 

We normal members of society labeled "good people," can hardly fathom such sick people like Castro or Garrido even exist.

My mother was the one when I was growing up who often made me watch the "Unsolved Mysteries" shows or read the newspaper about an abduction of a child and reiterate many different reasons why I should be where I say I'm going to be and to 'watch out for' strangers. Of course, as a teen, I wasn't always where I said I would be. But in the back of my mind, I did heed her warnings to some extent. I learned to look out for myself, I taught myself to be wary of people and to usually have a friend with me whenever we went out. I even took  a self-defense course at our local community college and through the police department to gain different perspectives about self-defense. 

My very good friend was brutally murdered and left on the side of the road with traumatic blunt force to the head and lacerations to her throat in 2006. This girl was my high school friend, and it doesn't seem possible she isn't here anymore... Because of a Crazy. 

In her memory, and for all girls fighting for their lives in the world... 

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Teaching our children about child predators is a very stressful, yet vitally important, thing we must do.  As parents it is our job to protect these beautiful babies we have brought into the world, and as they grow older, that means that we need to begin arming them with the knowledge of how to stay safe themselves.  These talks are often dreaded, and let’s face it, it hasn’t been that many years since parents started really accepting the responsibility to educate our children on this matter.  We are all still learning, and in many cases, no one ever had the type of conversation with us that we now need to have with our children.  As time passes, more and more technology is exposing our children to more predators than ever before.  Social media is essentially putting together a catalogue for these monsters, helping them to find the ‘weak’ and move in for the kill.  Children are trusting little beings, and they should remain so for as long as possible, but talking to our children about who they should trust is our best defense in ensuring that our children will recognize a bad situation when it happens, know who to talk to about that situation, and furthermore to have the confidence to talk about the situation."

 From abduction to abuse, Bailey explains how parents can speak to their kids about troubling topics while building their self-esteem and teaching them how to protect themselves. 

You can find every book, article or flier you want regarding teaching children about predators, but when it comes to the bottom of it, there is only one tool that can really get the job done.
As a parent, you are the single most effective tool in fighting child abuse, you alone can give your child the confidence to know how to keep themselves safe by trusting their instincts.

"No program or identification tool will keep children safe or prevent abductions 100 percent of the time. Parents, guardians and members of the community must all work together to help ensure children will be protected and have access to help if they need it. Child safety is all our responsibilities."
Nancy McBride, Child Safety Spokesperson and Executive Director, NCMEC Florida Regional Office
For a more comprehensive checklist download the Missing-Child, Emergency-Response, Quick-Reference Guide for Families.