To all moms and women out there with a passion for something—my advice is find a way to share it. I believe with the right guidance and care, you could find yourself extra successful. A good friend of mine, Terri, once said, “do what you love, the money will follow.” I do think it could be true for a lot of people. I believe everyone has something to share, or can give some sort of advice that would help others on a topic he/she has a lot of experience in.
I've been trying to convince my mom to start an “at-home” animal care blog. She's always had such a knack for raising and caring for animals. We had a horse, two dogs, a goat, five chickens and at least three geese at all times when I was growing up. It was like, if an animal passed away, we got a new one the following spring from the feed store. My mom loved animals. I can't say I share quite the same passion... I'm always pretty annoyed at the chickens and having to clean up after them and make sure they have water and such, it's not like the funnest time for me personally. But knowing my mom, and her friends, and how they feel about their pets, I just really believe she could have a wonderful blog following and maybe combine her ideas one day and publish her own eBook.
Another friend of mine composes music in his spare time and created a site that sells mainly ringtones, music downloads and soundtrack music. He has done extremely well, and actually loves his work. I wish my hubby had enough spare time to work on old cars. His dream is a 1981 GNX or a 1969 Dodge Charger. That would be a hobby he would actually feel passionately about and be able to make extra money doing on the side. Maybe when we don't have a spirited toddler who needs constant attention ;)
I have another friend who had a horse growing up, and her parents still have three horses on a few acres. I know my friend would make an amaaaazing horse instructor. I would take my daughter to her to teach her how to ride horses. I would pay for my daughter to have proper riding lessons, and my friend is the most outgoing, funny, vibrant gal who would make a wonderful instructor.
The problem is, my friends sometimes don't have that extra push that they really need to believe in themselves. Sometimes it's simply a lack of time, or money. But I find in my own life, the only way I feel like I am staying “sane” is by investing time and effort into some sort of project that defines me, makes me feel a connection to helping others, and leaving something for my children to really know me.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others” - Marianne Williamson
Of course there are some costs that go into any hobby to make it really good. If you can somehow find a way, it's worth a try. At the minimum if you can afford a computer, internet and a small amount of time to learn how to blog, you can sell your own work. You can sell a number of creations -- music, thesis, ringtones, novel, photos, weblog articles or movies, on free sites like Google/Blogger, Gumroad or Oronjo.
I have a few friends who have taken their talents to the next level in creating a small but powerful presence in their communities. One friend is a photographer who has the most beautiful portfolio capturing amazing moments in people's lives and for their families. Another friend of mine started a sewing blog and eventually quit her teaching job of 8 years to open up her own sewing and craft store. She may one day open stores all over America. Why not? Maybe 8 years of her life were wonderful teaching, and now she's moved on to something else, something that makes her heart sing in a different way.
Whatever your talent, find a way to expound on it.
My life goal is to travel to Cambodia or Brazil to help young girls who are the victims of rape, abuse and neglect, working with a foundation like WorldVision RedCross or the UNHCR. That's my long-term, visionary goal for myself. I need a plan and a place to start, so I have made connections with people all over the world via social media who share the same concerns, interests. As a family we chose a child through the WorldVision program whom we can 'sponsor' each month and feel assured the money (only $35/mo.) really goes to helping this family in a developing country. One day I hope we can have 5 families. One day I want to join the crusade to help children in developing countries, but it will take some time and planning.
All it takes is a plan. You may start out on an idea, a project and find it takes you in a totally different direction one day, and that's fine! We Millennials are okay with change—okay with pushing our limits and using technology to our advantage. We don't have to be stuck in some idea that simply doesn't work for us.
Believe in Yourself
Once you have a plan, the second step is believing in yourself. When you already feel down in the dumps over a failure or a hardship in your life, it can seem like everyone around you is much better off and you begin to hone in on your own shortcomings or hardships. It's hard when we Millennials finally realize how little the world actually cares about us. We think it's going to, or that it should, but the world can be very scary and very damaging, and I really think the only one we can truly depend on is ourselves and our relationship with God.
There's no need to turn to alcohol, or pop pills, shoot meth, smoke crack..
I have seen friends and acquaintances turn to this stuff as a way of dealing with hardships or regrets.
The key to a happy life is to find meaning in your life. Accept who you are. Accept that you have setbacks and failures—we all do. Maybe some of our parents forgot to mention this, a few times, but most of us really aren't going to be given anything in this life—we simply aren't entitled.
The problem with drinking or popping pills, heroin, meth, etc. is that it's a temporary fix to a bigger problem—ultimately compounding into even more problems than there were in the beginning. Just watch a season of Intervention on A&E, and you can see the problems, detrimental effect and years stolen that drugs and drinking can cause.
Maybe there are better remedies at dealing with stress—like music, classes, creating something, herbal tea, yoga, planting a garden, helping a local charity, planning a vacation, praying for strength...things that are a healthy outlet to the stresses in life, without taking us down a dark and addictive road of addiction or recovery.
“Cause sometimes, you just feel tired. Feel weak. And when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up. But you gotta search within you. You gotta find that inner strength, and just pull that sh#t out of you. And get that motivation to NOT give up and NOT be a quitter. No matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.” -Eminem